Ask Jigsaw: How can I deal with depressive thoughts?

Dealing with grief and loss

The loss of a loved one affects us all in different ways. Some people feel strong feelings like sadness, fear, anger and shock. Other people feel numb or empty.

There is no right way to feel right now. It sounds like for you, that grief is showing up in the kind of thoughts you’re having. This article has some tips for coping with the thoughts and feelings that often accompany grief and loss.

Talk to someone

The death of a loved one can bring up a number of emotions and thoughts, but people who are bereaved by suicide can have a particularly complex set of feelings and thoughts. It is helpful to talk to others about how you feel. Opening up to someone you trust not only gets things off your chest, it also helps others know how they can support you.

There are also a number of organisations who can listen and support you with those thoughts you mentioned. Pieta House offer support for people affected by suicide. You can also chat to us on our Live Chat service.

Look after yourself

Our thoughts and feelings are intertwined. Often when we have certain thoughts, they can make us feel low. When we feel low, we often don’t feel like doing things that can make us feel better. Sometimes it’s the small things, like exercise, eating well, getting a good sleep, and practicing self-care that slip. This article has some tips on managing low mood, and on minding yourself when you feel low.

Thank you for reaching out to Ask Jigsaw. I hope you can mind yourself during this difficult time. If you would like to talk to someone, we’re here for you.

Take care,

Emma