Ask Jigsaw: I feel like I may have ADHD

Thursday, 03 September 2020

I have always had trouble concentrating in general, but no one noticed because i was quiet. I feel like I may have ADHD as I strongly relate to most of the behaviors. How do I subtly tell my parents and try to get help.

-JJ

Hi JJ,

It sounds like understanding your concentration difficulties is really important to you JJ. It’s great that you’re being proactive in finding out more, despite other’s not noticing the reality of your experience.

Difficulty concentrating

Our concentration can be affected by a number of things, from lifestyle and sleep, to stress and mood difficulties. Poor concentration doesn’t necessarily mean that you have an underlying condition. However, as you’ve mentioned, lack of concentration can also be related to attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). So it makes sense that you want to look further into this.

Speaking to parents

Speaking to your parents is an important first step in understanding what’s going on for you.

You’ve mentioned that you would like to tell them subtly, which might suggest that you are worried about their reaction?

Emma

Jigsaw clinician

Having difficulties with everyday things is nothing to be ashamed of, and the right support could make your life a lot easier.

Starting the conversation

It’s important that you are open and honest with your parents so that you can get the right help.

It could be helpful to plan for the conversation in advance, by deciding what you’d like to tell them, and what you’d like from them in return.

Do you want them to listen without giving advice?
Do you want them to help you explore assessment and support options?

Having this clear in your mind before you speak can make the conversation less daunting, and help you make sure your needs are met.

Click here for some handy tips on communication.

ADHD assessment and support

If you are thinking about assessment, a good first step is to talk to your GP. You can decide to visit independently, however if you are under 18 the doctor may let your parents know about the visit. The doctor will ask questions about how you manage day to day things like school or work, and socialising with others. Regardless of the outcome, they can help you to find support that will help you to focus and feel better.

I hope this information is helpful JJ, and that you find the support you’re looking for.

Take care,
Emma
Jigsaw clinician