Ask Jigsaw: Life not the same since bereavement

Monday, 05 October 2020

Ever since my niece died my life hasn’t been the same, I’ve always been quiet lonely and now it’s even worse I feel useless all the time and my life is a chore. i realised one of the only reason I’m living was for her I don’t know what to do anymore

-Turtle

Hi Turtle,

I am so sorry for the loss of your niece. Grief is a really tough emotion and can take more time than we might realise to work through. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. You can read more about grief and loss here.

Thoughts of suicide

I am really concerned about your last comments Turtle. It sound like you might be struggling with thoughts of not wanting to be here. It is hard to manage those thoughts on our own, and I would really encourage you to talk to someone about what is going on for you.

Pieta House offers support for people who are struggling with thoughts of suicide. You can ring them on 1800 247 247 or text ‘help’ to 51444. It can take time, but with the right support you will be able to find meaning in your life again.

Paul

Jigsaw clinician

I hope you will be able to take the next steps and talk to someone in person about how you are feeling.

Loneliness and isolation

I hear you say that you’ve always felt lonely. It’s hard when we feel like we don’t fit in and it sounds that your recent loss has amplified that feeling. It’s not always easy, but here are some things that might be helpful to think about in coping with loneliness and isolation.

It takes a lot of strength and courage to reach out like you have Turtle. I want you to know that things can get better. I hope you will be able to draw on the courage you have shown here to take the next steps and talk to someone in person about how you are feeling.

Take care,

Paul

Jigsaw clinician