Covid 19 and social distancing has meant that we all have to adjust and reset our boundaries. Amina, 17, a Jigsaw volunteer from Meath shares her experience of setting boundaries with friends.
I would describe boundaries as a healthy foundation for any relationship.
According to our MyWorldSurvey, the top 2 coping strategies for adolescents are enjoying music (54%) and friends (56%).
So, we are thrilled to partner with POD for The Festival of Now, a unique festival film celebrating the heart of music and arts in Ireland today.
The Festival of Now is a brand new film, which showcases a variety of Ireland’s best musicians, poets, and performers.
The film will feature performances plus interviews focused on the collective experience of the past year, delving into the importance of music and art for our mental health.
As a parent, you have worked hard over the years to set boundaries for your children. To help them differentiate right from wrong and to make good choices.
However, as they get older many young people may seem determined to test boundaries (and their parents) to the limits.
Spend some time thinking about your boundaries and expectations and how they evolve. This can help avoid some of the conflict that inevitably arises as young people progress into adulthood.
In the article, you will find:
We held the final instalment of our 2020 series of parents’ webinars on Monday, 7 December.
Jigsaw clinicians Jules and Laura gave a 20 minute presentation on managing family conflict, followed by questions and answers from parents.
You can view the full recording below:
I have recently started to cut my wrist and I’m not exactly sure why. I am an extremely shy person and could possibly have social anxiety. At first I thought it was a way of asking for help without actually talking to people but now that I have done it I am extremely scared of anyone finding out and am now terrified of what might happen. I don’t know what to do and need help. I am a very young person and shouldn’t even be considering on self harm. What should I do?
-Sarah
Hi Sarah,
Sometimes there’s no particular reason why people start to self-harm. It can quickly become a habit that’s difficult to break on your own.
We can often find it difficult to talk about our anxieties and worries. It’s not unusual to form a habit of thinking it’s “all in my head”, or “not a big deal”.
I just feel everything is so overwhelming atm, like so much expectations and pressures coming from everywhere. A lot of the time I feel like I cant cope with things everyone else can deal with. I’m just slacking in everything and I sometimes feel like failure.
I tend to jump to the worst case scenario really quickly and I’m worried I might do something impulsive sometime. I don’t really know what to do or how I’ll stop feeling this way, i always convince myself facing up to stuff is too hard to do. Do u guys know what I should do? Thank you 🙂
-Aishlinn
Hi Aishlinn,
It is such a difficult place to be in when it feels like a lot is expected of us and that we are getting pressure from every angle. When we are feeling overwhelmed, it’s hard to start anything and that can lead to feeling like a failure.
If you spend any time on Jigsaw.ie or our social channels, you’ll see plenty of references to One Good Adult.
One Good Adult (OGA) refers to an adult who a young person can turn to if they are in need of support. The theme of One Good Adult emerged from the My World Survey, a national study of youth mental health. OGAs support young people in their life by listening to them, giving them time and space to open up and not judging them.
Boundaries demonstrate what we think is acceptable, or unacceptable, in peoples’ behaviour towards us. Establishing boundaries can be a way of protecting ourselves.
To help in this article we cover:
This one hour online course for primary school teachers, has been developed by Jigsaw, in collaboration with ESCI – Education Support Centres Ireland.
The aim of the course is to increase the mental health literacy and skills of primary school teachers of 5th and 6th class pupils.
